Advice for the Youth and Students

Nityananda Gauranga Hare Krishna!Dear Swamiji and devotees, please accept my humble obeisances. All glories to Sri Sri Guru and Gauranga.I like to speak a few open-hearted words about the urge for masturbation under brahmacharies. This is a problem not much addressed and talked about under devotees and I spoke with quite a lot of aspiring devotees who have discussed this problem privately with me. Following is the extract of some general realizations of the subject.Sex between a man and a woman in order to create a child to be raised as a devotee of Lord Gauranga Krishna is absolutely sacred and beautiful. As a matter in fact Lord Gauranga Krishna says about such a union between a man and a woman: 'I am that sex'. But sex to gratify our lusty desires has nothing to do with this sacred sex and turns out to be a dangerous blockage on our devotional path. Not only brahmacharies struggle with lusty desires; it is a problem experienced by the devotees in all ashramas.When we give in to our lusty desires and have sex without the above described intention we call it 'illicit sex'. Every single time we satisfy our lusty desires it is like fuel on the fire. Gratification of sex desire awakens more sex desire every single time. It is very addictive and as soon as you give into the addiction it becomes harder to stop. It is like alcoholism and drug addiction; you have to stop it altogether because every sip of liquor or taste of the drug bears the tremendous danger of falling back into the addiction with even more force than before.Many have asked me over time how we can get our lusty desires under control. There is no straight answer to this, at least not in general, since every individual needs a personalized approach. Of course when we bath in the ocean of Love for Lord Gaura Krishna lusty sexual desires would not even arise in the mind. Being absorbed 24 hours in the service of the Lord is the safest place to be. The rise of lusty desires comes when we are not engaged in the Lord and somehow we think we are the enjoyer. Everything, the whole creation, is there for the pleasure of Lord Gauranga Krishna.Now let us have a closer look at what those lusty desires actually are and what we are doing when we are giving in to them. I like to talk in particular about masturbation. You will be shocked and you should be! The following is described from a boy�s point of view but can easily be reversed and read in the she-form as well. First let us discuss what they are thinking when they are masturbating. In most cases it is the opposite sex they think of. What kind of person do they think person they physically know. Then the next question is does the person in question approve that you fantasize about her/him when you masturbate? Did you ask her/him? Most answer 'no' and this is very significant because masturbating while fantasizing about a person who does not willingly comply with your act means that you receive the stringent reactions of forcibly molesting her/him. Think about it. There is even a subtle vibration that transmits to the person in question that disturbs her/his normal functioning. Therefore sex models in magazines and films (many men/women fantasize about them) experience so many problems on so many levels.This goes even further. Our constitutional position is that of a servant of Lord Gauranga Krishna. Every living entity is a devotee of the Lord. Also the Lord is living in the hearts of all living entities. He knows everything we do, every breath we take. On this spiritual level of understanding we can easily conclude that masturbation on the opposite sex in our fantasy is nothing else than "molesting, accosting or abusing another person while the Lord is watching you doing it". When you remember this it is impossible to masturbate and your lusty desires are checked instantly. I know it is a terrible graphic but the truth has to be spoken. Most students at this point say that knowing this makes it impossible to masturbate anymore.There is an extra question. When you would know that you would die right after this act, would you avoid having one? 'Yes' is always the answer. Then the ultimate question: would you rather die or know that you are molesting another person while God is watching you?Sometimes things have to be forcefully brought into perspective to be understood on the core level. I apologize when your stomach turned while reading this. Every time when we have illicit sex is fuel on the fire, a terrible fire that keeps us separated from the Lord. It NEVER brings us closer to the Lord and it ALWAYS brings us further away from Lord Gauranga Krishna. Therefore I call upon all the sincere devotees to follow the highest standards of our sampradaya and abstain from illicit sex to have the mind always free to engage in the unlimited nectar of His Holy Names. And when lusty desires arise, call sincerely upon Lord Nityananda and He with His unlimited ocean of bliss will surely respond and all your lusty desires will melt away as snow for the sun instantly.Your servant,Hadai Nityananda dasaNityananda Gauranga Hare Krishna!

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